Monday, June 20, 2011

Search for significance.

We’re all in search of significance.

Whether it be in the title we hold at our jobs. Trying to measure up to the neighbor next door. What kind of car we drive. What kind of clothes we have. How much money we have. How many friends we have. Whether we have the white-picket fence with the husband and the kids to go with it. Looking for significance in our relationships, and truth be told, even looking for significance in the blog and twitter world, or even in the FB statuses we put out there to send the message, “Hey, I’m significant.”

Y’all, I have been struggling fiercely with the blogging lately. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve written a blog post and deleted it, or published and then maybe didn’t get a lot of comments and deleted the post all together, thinking to myself maybe it wasn’t significant and not what people wanted to read.

That.Is.Crazy and all together just flat out stupid.

I don’t know how I let myself get to that place. I didn’t ever want to get to that place.

Sometimes I guess I feel like the odd man out because I have no significant other to write about, no cute kids to blog about, no cute house of my own to show you.

I guess it’s easy to think that there’s no significance to your life when compared with others. But I have to do a heart check and know how dishonoring to God it is to even think like this…. Because God thinks of each and every one of us as significant.

Each day written and ordained by him is significant. Each season of our life is significant.

When I think of the word significant I think of importance, value, worth…

Don’t we get it???? This is how God sees us… We are important to him. He sees the value and worth in us, even when we can’t see it in ourselves.

Our significance isn’t found in people or meaningless stuff. Or how many people comment on our blog or our follower count on Twitter, etc.

Good grief, when we get to heaven… do you think we’re going to be tweeting away to all our followers, blogging, or be on Facebook for that matter? NO. I think we’ll be enthralled with far greater things.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ll be the first to say I LOVE all this stuff.

But I think the ways in which we find our significance (raising my hand) is so screwed up.

16 comments:

Aishlea and Brandon said...

So true......

It is so easy to get caught up in this life and all the wordly things...what people see and think of us! It is so easy to lose focus of our purpose and the important things.

Thanks for a heart check in me today.

Jess said...

I've been struggling with this, A LOT.

I love my family and my friends. I love the life I have. But, more than once, I've thought to myself, "I wish the child I'm taking a picture with, right now, was MINE and not someone else's." or "I wish my boyfriend/husband was coming on vacation with my family, instead of just me."


God's got a Perfect Plan for both of us. It's just realizing and accepting that this season is also a part of it that's the difficult part.

The Nashville Nosher said...

I'm so glad you stepped out and posted this. We all struggle with this no matter what stage of life we are in. sometimes I feel so bad about myself after reading blogs because I feel like I'm not as pretty, funny, rich, or successful as other bloggers. So I know where you are coming from in that sense. However, even though a lot of us are honest in blog world, we still don't really know the struggles that we all deal with. So hang in there girl, keep blogging what is on your heart, whether you get a response or not!

Rebecca Jo said...

Girllllll... you are so talking to me in this post! I have been fighting so much lately in life about why I dont feel so important to other people.. when you know what - it doesnt matter. I need that reminder that the ONLY one that is important DOES find me IMPORTANT! Each & every day - no matter what! Thanks for the reminder!

PS... you are VERY significant to me too for what its worth ;)

THE Stephanie said...

Friend, love where you are. Relish the life you have now. Blog for you and no one else.

Personally, I think it's evident when people blog for comments and I don't enjoy those blogs. Your readers love you and who you are - just be you!

Steph{anie} said...

As a single 20-something, I totally identify with this. When I compare my significance with that of those around me, I find that I come up short. However, that's not what God intends for me; He has given me value that's uniquely my own. I'm incredibly significant to God in my own unique way...when I compare myself to others, I'm basically saying "God, you didn't make me important/special/unique enough."

Thanks for this post! I will be a regular follower now :)

BARBIE said...

Oh Lauren, this is so true. I have a husband and kids and job that I could be blogging about. But most days I hit a wall with the lack of inspiration. It is so important that we find our worth and significance in God and Him alone. It's hard not to compare ourselves to others at times.

Shannon Dew said...

What a great message!I love this! I too get caught up in that "nonsense", it's easy to do, we just have to remember what's really important in life!

Melissa said...

This:
gave me goosebumps, made me cry, and was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.

Staci said...

Thanks for the perspective Lauren! You are such a great writer and even though I don't comment much, I enjoy reading what you have to say :) Love ya, girl!

Sunshinemeg said...

First of all - great post my friend. Love when there is total honesty in a post. You really laid it out there and I respect you for it. Thanks for sharing.

Jenna said...

Great post Lauren, and so true. I've always told Chris that if this blogging world ever became more than documenting our seasons, that he needed to help me pull the plug on it. It can be so easy to get caught up in the insignificant details and miss the big picture. You are wise beyond your years.

On another note, you have been weighing heavily on my heart lately. I don't know what - if anything - is going on but know that you are being prayed for. Lots. Love you friend!

Perfectly Imperfect said...

very well said. someone's i get caught up in the little things, like the numbers of blogging and tweeting, i'll admit it. when that happens, i take a step back and remember that i blog for US. for us to look back on years from now. puts it into perspective :)

Meredith said...

Lauren, I loved this post. I really needed to hear that today. It really doesn't matter about facebook or twitter or whatever else ....what matters is that God loves us!

Girl in Carolina said...

So funny I read this after I published a post that I almost deleted because I was too worried about what others would think. You always have wise advice and words my friend. Thanks for just being you!!!! xoxo

singleladyforJesus, solteraparaJesus, celibatairepourJesus said...

It takes courage to be single! But Jesus denied Himself and His desires (who says he didn't want the same things!) and lived a sinless (and single, solitary) life for us and knows what it's like! He is able to sympathize with us therefore :) It is important to remember to seek FIRST the Kingdom of God and HIS righteousness and then all these things will be added to us :) (i'm preaching to myself here :p)