Thursday, November 18, 2010

When God surprises you....

I tossed back and forth whether or not to even blog this… or to just blog about it, but save it for later, as you know… since I’m on a blog break and all. Ha! And honestly, feared that if I did blog then I would seem like I wasn’t a woman of my word.

There were multiple reasons why I felt I needed to take a blog break.

Honestly the reason why I felt the need to step back was not so much because blogging about my life was the issue and the time spent on my personal blog, but it’s being so invested (that can be a good thing, but also bad) in an unhealthy way in the lives of others (whom most I’ve never met by-the-way, ha…but I love every single one of you and I don’t mean that in a bad way at all), and honestly it’s the time I spent commenting and catching up on other people’s blogs and feeling bad if I don’t that was really getting to me.

I felt like I was living to blog, and not just simply living…. Hope that makes sense. I felt like I was getting to the point where I was doing it for all the wrong reasons. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, it’s not about the followers, how many people frequent your blog, or how many comments you get. There should be no fear that if you don’t blog for a few days you’ll lose followers, and if you do, who the heck cares.

I just need to get back to why I started blogging in the first place, for me and me alone.

With that said. I need to get down my thoughts and memories from last night:

First, I actually ended up meeting him at the restaurant instead of him picking me up, as we had originally planned.

Dinner was delicious, great conversation, no awkward silence. He is very cute in his own way and his personality is what really makes him. Very meek and gentle. He paid of course and did the whole opening of the doors all night. Complete gentleman. After dinner we decided we would go to square and go to Starbucks and get something. So with our drinks in hand we walked around and went to the docks near the water and talked and then walked around some more. During this time he held my hands a couple of times. Which I really didn’t expect him to do but it was nice.

Then there was a Barnes & Nobles nearby and things were winding down on the square and we had a little more time to kill, so we walked around some more in there looking and then we headed back to the car. I could sense just from who he is and his personality that he wasn’t going to make any kind of move on the first date which is completely fine, but my Mom said, if he doesn’t kiss you, which he probably won’t, and you feel comfortable as you’re leaving each other give him a hug and give him a kiss on the cheek. So I did just that. YAY me!!!!!!! :) Ha!

The whole evening was just relaxed, and I really contemplated having a glass of wine or beer before I met him to calm the nerves, haha!! But I didn’t, LOL!

And he invited me to go to church with him on Sunday!!! So I think I will.

I’m just going into this with no expectations or pressure and just seeing where it goes. He’s definitely worth getting to know.

Ohhhhh, and the best part. Before dinner he took my hand and we prayed before eating!!! Very cool!

Sooooo, we’ll see!!!

I’d rate the date a 9, he has to earn his way to a 10, hahahaha!!

I can’t promise you I’ll blog tomorrow or the next day, but this is what I needed to blog today.

I have 226 items in my google reader, and you know what, I just can’t be freaked out about it!

21 comments:

Aishlea said...

You have to blog for you and not worry about comments, leaving comments, etc. I am glad the date went so well!! :) And I for one am glad you are blogging about it!!

Jenna said...

Lauren!!!! Okay first of all I love the first part of your post (I love the second part too, just for different reasons). I think that the first part of your post should be required reading for all bloggers! And I am so thrilled that your date went so awesomely well!!!! Love you friend!

BeckyJo606 said...

What an awesome date to go on! I can't believe he held your hand for prayer over your dinner. That guy sounds like a keeper!! I am so glad that you took a break from blogging to tell us about it!!

Melissa said...

So happy for you! Can't wait to hear more about this guy and your journey! Enjoy church and your blog break.

Lauren @ Dreams Take Flight said...

I am SO HAPPY to hear your date went well! He sounds like a gentleman!

I love the first part of your post too..I blog for me and find it hard sometimes to remember that even if what I'm writing is boring or not going to get any comments, I write it for ME. It's my scrapbook of my life and I don't care if anyone likes it!

Rosie said...

Oh. My. Gosh! Your date sounded perfect. I love that he grabbed your hand to pray. Sounds like a keeper.
Thank you for blogging about this b/c I truely enjoy reading your blog. You are such a positive person! I know it can get stressful to worry about the small things to do with blogging. I catch myself apologizing all the time on my blog for not writing more or better.

You take as long as you need. Until then, happy holidays and dating ;)

Melissa said...

I'm so happy you're back! Never feel like you HAVE to blog a certain amount, just do whatever you want and don't worry about it :) Are you still taking a Twitter break? I already miss you on there before my 9am bedtime lol.

I'm SO HAPPY your date went well!

In This Wonderful Life said...

I totally believe that you must trust the way you are feeling about blogging and do what works best for YOU! Sometimes you have to put yourself first...no matter how hard it can be.

And next..how EXCITING!!! Love to hear your date went well! Can't wait to hear more :)

katie@tulsadetails said...

So glad the date went well! You must keep us posted!!! :)

Kendra said...

I think the whole world is taking a blog break, and I am all for it!

Congrats on the successful date. Here's praying for many more and for this relationship to develop in to something wonderful!

Staci said...

I've been waiting for this!! Sounds like he's a perfect gentleman! Can't wait to read how Sunday goes :) So happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jordan said...

So glad your date went well! Keep us updated :-)

The Nashville Nosher said...

I think it is mandatory that you break your "blog break" to update us on these dates! SOOO excited for you! Sounds great :)

Jessica @ Wanting Adventure said...

I love that he prayed with you before dinner! That's awesome. :) I can't wait until you're back from the break so we can hear more.

Naturally Caffeinated Family said...

I can't tell you how many times all of your thoughts have gone through my head! It's crazy! ;) I have to remind myself all the time that I blog for us, but all those thoughts still creep in more times than I'd like! And yay for your date! So glad it went so well! That's exciting! :) and I love that he prayed before dinner too, that's awesome!

BARBIE said...

You absolutely must blog for yourself. You are all that matters. I am one of those women who stumbled upon your blog and stayed because something I read touched or intrigued. I often feel like I am intruding in people's lives. Thank you for allowing me to follow. And I am thankful your date went well.

Shannon Dew said...

sounds WONDERFUL! I'm so happy for you and he sounds like a really nice guy! So sweet! Happy Friday!

Perfectly Imperfect said...

I just sent you an email that has my thoughts on this subject.. so I'll just skip to the boy!

I can't wait to hear more! So far he sounds like a great catch. Just be happy and enjoy it!

And I have over 600 items in my Reader. Cannot handle it!

Melissa said...

I understand how you feel about blogging. Sometimes I go through stages where I can blog everyday and actually have something to say. Then there are times, when I don't feel like sharing anything or I just don't want to spend my time on the computer. It's important to find that balance. There are some things, however, that you have to "journal" on the blog even if it's only for you to remember. And, by the way, I'm so happy to hear you had a good time. You deserve this!

Heather @ Simple Wives said...

This post just makes me smile from the beginning to the end. :)

Kayla said...

Aww, I am glad to hear that you had a nice date! You deserve it girl!