As a single gal, this real resonated with me and thought this was so great. Wanted to share.
"He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains
favor from the Lord." Prov 18:22, AMP
Ok single
boys and girls, today and tomorrow we are going to focus on you! Specifically,
if you’re in your twenties and ready to start thinking about dating and
marriage – you have to do it right! Don’t buy into all the pretend love you see
in the media or gossip magazines. Relationships, love and marriage are a lot
more fun than what you see on TV or in the movies.
Ok guys –
here’s what a girl wants. She wants you to sweep her off her feet! All of her
life she’s had this crazy dream that she’s Cinderella and one day her Prince
Charming would come along and literally sweep her off her feet with the glass
slipper. You’d be surprised how easy this is to do! This is not an exhaustive
list, but here are a few practical ways to find and pursue the girl of your
dreams.
Pray
and Be Jesus-Focused: If you want to find
an awesome Christian girl and experience a relationship that is blessed by God,
you better be a Christian. One of the number one things a Christian girl wants
is a real, Jesus-loving, praying, Bible-living, genuine Christian guy who walks
the talk. Lots of guys call themselves Christian, but they don’t treat women in
a way that honors the Lord. Girls are seriously looking for a guy that is
strong in the Lord. Girls don’t want to be the spiritual leader of the
relationship and the one who has to initiate conversations on godly things –
they want a guy who totally gets it and is on the same page in their passionate
pursuit of God. First step: Go after God, then go after the girl.
Ask
Her Out: Guys, you have to take
the initiative. Girls are responders; boys are initiators. Sure, you can find
the type of girls who will hunt you down like prey; but most Christian women
want to be pursued by a pursuer! Notice the passage in Proverbs, “A man who
FINDS a wife, FINDS a good thing.” You have to find her! That means you are the
hunter. That means you call her. You send the email. You text. You ask her out.
The worst that can happen is that she’ll say “No” – and that will be her loss.
Second step: Find her and get a date.
Be
Creative: If you’re trying to win
the love of your life, the days of “Let’s just go to dinner and a movie…” have
to be shelved. She wants you to put a little more thought into it. Do something
fun and different. How about a date at the Zoo? Why not order Chinese take-out
and then set up a folding table and chairs in a local boulevard and have your
dinner in the middle of traffic? If you want to go to the movies, how about
doing a tail-gate party in the parking lot? Sure, set up tent and enjoy some
sandwiches and chips before the movie! Plan a Mystery Trip and go to
out-of-the-way towns, find the local dive and have dinner; then feed the ducks
at a nearby river. You don’t have to spend a lot of money. A drive to see the
sunset, a walk through the park, rent a canoe, ride bikes, go visit the elderly
in a nursing home, ride the Merry-Go-Round…the list goes on…girls love these
things! There are so many ways to spend time together – why settle for
something as basic as “dinner and a movie?” Third step: Don’t be predictable or
boring.
Learn
How To Talk: Boys – this may the best
piece of advice yet – girls like to talk! They do not enjoy sitting in silence
and staring at a TV, a windshield, a candle or the fun couple at the table next
to you that seems to be having so much fun talking to one another. Girls like
two-way conversations. As much as they want to hear about everything you have
done since birth; they would also like you to ask them a question about their
lives. That means you are going to have to become an expert at asking her
questions about her and learn how to follow it up with another question about
her before you start talking about you, again. They also love to talk about
God, life and other interesting and intellectually stimulating things – after
that, they don’t mind a little chatting about sports. Fourth step: Talk about
God, life, intelligent things and her…and after that feel free to talk about
sports.
Bring
Gifts: Girls love gifts! It’s not the price
tag; it’s the thought. What does your girl like? Flowers are nice, but it’s
even better if the gift is customized for her. Show her you’ve been listening
to her likes and dislikes and give her a gift for no reason. If she likes
Kit-Kat bars, don’t bring a Snickers bar. If orange is her favorite color, make
sure your gift is orange! Wrap the gift. Hide the gift. Plant the gift. There
are so many ways to give a gift – so have fun. Fifth step: Gifts always work.
Make
a Deal: Make a deal to be pure. If you want
the Lord’s hand on your relationship, choose to lead the relationship in a way
that puts Him first and honors Him and His guidelines. The world tells you that
purity is old-school and out of fashion; God tells you that purity is the
pathway to the type of relationship the world will drool over. Treat her the
way you’d want someone to treat your sister. Respect her. Recently a couple
that had just begun dating asked me to be a witness to a contract they had
drawn up. The man is an attorney and he wrote up a “legal” contract on their agreement
to have a dating relationship that remained pure. I signed the doc and told
them I was proud of them for taking the subject of purity so seriously; they
told me that they wanted God’s blessing in their relationship and they knew
that being held accountable was an important part of it. Sixth step: Keep it
pure.
